Fear, Worry, and All the Synonyms 

Soooo yeah. This is a whopper for me. 

I worry. A lot. 

There, I said it. It’s like my brain is pre-wired to think “WORST CASE SCENARIO” regarding every issue, whether it be kids, friends, husband, money…. The monologue in my head goes something like this:

“Why isn’t my husband home yet? He said he’d be home 10 minutes ago. I hope there wasn’t an accident….would the police know he’s got me listed as ‘All My Love’ in his phone?”   Seriously, I’ve thought that. Poor husband thinks I just get frustrated that he’s running behind…. And… OK. Sometimes it’s that. But sometimes, a lot of times, my “frustration” is actually leftover stress from 10 minutes of straight WORRYING.

OR… 

“Why hasn’t she texted me back yet? Is she mad at me? What did I say that could be construed as offensive?” *reads text again 35 times* Hmm…. 

Back in college, I had a friend who used to commiserate with me. We called it “analyzing.” Really, it was hashing out all of the worries and fears and “what-could-go-wrongs” and ascribing intent to every person who said something to us that we couldn’t quite figure out the meaning of… 

When I became a mom, I immediately became a professional worrier. What could possibly go wrong? OK, that’s what I’m going to mentally prepare for. “What ifs” became my preferred line of thought. My thought life was chaos. 
With every new milestone came new dangers and fears. Yay! My oldest can ride his bike! (More mobility and independence?! Yikes.)

 There weren’t enough helmets, knee pads, and wrist guards in the world to calm my fears. 

I’d love to say I’m no longer a worrier, and I never fight the fears that creep in to my head…. I’m still a mom. I’m still a little “analytical” sometimes. 

But here’s what I’ve learned about my Father: He is a peace-giver. His heart hurts when He sees His daughter live in constant fears and worries and what-ifs. No fear or worry is ever from Him. His heart is set for my good, not my destruction. That includes my children. He loves them more than I do. There is someone, however, who wants nothing more than to destroy my kids. And me. 

And he is the master at crafting thought-darts designed specifically to target your worst fears. 

I like how Beth Moore describes how she faced her worst fear. She says that she was praying about this fear, and she felt God whisper, “What would happen if that came true?” She was stunned and she describes how she told God how devastated she would be. He seemed to respond, “Well, Beth, what then?!” After more back and forth of the same, she finally told God, “Well, then I’d have You. And I’d cry out to You and read Your Word and cry out to You more.”  Our worst fears have absolutely no standing against the all-consuming love and compassion our Savior has for us. 

3 Comments

  • erynlueders

    My husband calls me a professional worrier, too. I agree, I feel like I’m wired to worry and assume the worst. You’re absolutely right, though, that worrying isn’t productive, but it’s so much easier said than done not to worry.

    I have never heard Beth Moore’s perspective, but I absolutely love it. Truly, if whatever you’re worrying about comes true, when you stick with God, it’s going to be okay. Maybe not right away, but His plan is always perfect. Man, this hit home for me.

    Thank you for this post. I needed this reminder today.

    • notquitesupermoms

      I’m so glad this was a blessing to you! I can’t tell you how many hours I’ve wasted on worry…probably years of my life, quite literally! But I hope you’ll be encouraged to recognize worry when it starts to creep in–have you listened to the podcast? The latest episode is called “Voices in Your Head.” You’ll understand when you hear it, but fear is one of the biggest voices I’ve had to silence in my own head! You should check it out. : ) https://soundcloud.com/user-94975174/voicesinyourhead

  • jenn56093

    So glad I am not the only one that does that, why isn’t my hubby home, has there been an accident, but then I start to remember satan is a liar and is getting the better of me with these thoughts and I have to fight hard to remove them from my head. Will be checking out your podcast you mentioned!

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